Basically I am seeing someone. Everything is going fine - distance is an issue but were ok about that.
Recently I got a marriage proposal. One of those random family set up things. His mom contacted my aunt and apparently he saw me in a wedding and asked about me blah blah blah. Except that is not the story at all.
Now the family is putting pressure on me to accept and I am refusing. When they mentioned the name and they saw my reaction, they are now insisting that I give them a reason. I cannot tell them what the reason is since it involves another family friend and basically this guy was her bf for a long time and as far as I know she still loves him.
I have this policy that basically the people off limits are an ex's friends and a friend's exes.
Anyways so my current beau, despite the fact that I am very attached to him is not the reason I am rejecting this person. If it was someone else, I would have considered it.
So this is not the first proposal I got this way but this is the first time that I am getting A LOT of pressure to accept. Usually by this time, the issue would have been over and not mentioned again and everything gone back to normal. Now Im getting the whole "you are 28 oo bit3ansy" speeches.
Should I tell the beau about this issue?? Please comment with your opinions and elaborate your points. I really need to see different sides of the issue that I may be missing. Generally what I have gotten from my friends is basically the single ones in my age group say no dont tell and the younger age group and the married friends are telling me that I should.
- Yes because we are supposed to be sharing everything and he should know that something this big is happening in my life
- No because I dont want him to think its one of those games that girls play to put pressure on them to propose to them (7arakat ga3da agoolik 3ashan min sibaq libaq)
68 m3andeen:
hmmmm... that's a toughie!
bs i think u should tell him.. he should be in the picture ..
i think u should tell him . men 7aggah i3arif
ya3ni lo ily yayich mo ur friend's ex chan u would've said yes ? itha he's just an entertainment and a waste of time then dont since u couldnt care less but if u care about him why would u marry someone else ?
My beau is not only my love but my best friend as well. I tell him everything and he knows me inside out and the same applies to him.
I don't know what your relationship is like, but if he is your everything and you are attached to him, 9ar7ee.. Be open and honest and 9adgeeni this will score points with him. What i know is that they appreciate honesty and if he happens to find out later about this 'proposal' it will get ugly.. So why deal with that. Just bring it up casually and tell him I need to get my family off my back and if he knows u and loves you he won't think its one of those games girls play to fish a proposal from their boyfriend..
Thats my opinion, but then again this all goes back to your situation and what you see best for your problem. Good Luck!
Shofay your intentions arent to "play" the game of having him step up, your intentions is to share something important with your boyfriend, bs ib nafs il wagt that is not how he might see it.
I really think you should talk to him and explain to him why you are telling him, explain that you just need to talk and this does not mean he needs to propose or anything
love you babe ;**
i think you should tell him and if he wont marry you u marry this guy.
You don't want to end up alone, do u? Opportunity only knocks so many times. and anyways, all is fair in love and war.
Personally, i think you should tell him and see hwo he reacts. If he is serious about you then for sure he will react to it and may propose and that will end your problems, and you can go back to your family and explain to them that you are waiting for someone to come forward.
But, if he is not going to action anything then this will tell you that he is not taking you seriously and you are ought to forget about him.
Going back to the family friend of yours, i think you need to talk to her if you are to consider the guy who proposed and if you dont mind marrying him. You can clarify the situation with the firend and check if she is fine with you proceding with this proposal.
Its difficlut situation for sure but you will have to take a decission sooner or later.
Good luck dear.
i think you should tell him ,if i were you i would ,plus if you guys are close and he knows u well he wont think ina you are one of those girls that play the MARRAIGE card and at the end of the day u should be thinking about you and only you forget the rest who are involved in this you should think isit the right thing to do?
and i hope it all goes right for you .
About your policy.. i have another opinion..One day your boyfriend, the one you are currently seeing, was someone's else's boyfriend..right? Maybe someone else is paining and you would never know. What i am saying is that , life is short, you meet different people all the time. If you keep thinking i cant be with this one, because his ex is still in love with him, i think it will be hard to find a guy that has no baggage.
I think with marriage, it is na9eeb. You dont know what happens. I think you should pray an esta5ara..see what happens..but definitly tell your boyfriend..If he was in your shoes..youd be upset if he didnt tell you?
I think its only fair to tell him. You wouldnt want him to hear it from someone else you know?
Best of luck with your decision. Please do not let anyone's opinions cloud your judgment. Do what you feel is right. It sounds corny but its true.
PLease let us know what happens..
Btw your still young! 28 is YOUNG!!
and family sucks-im 23 and i get the marriage talk!! aaaaaaahhh
I totaly agree with Bahraini Barbie... she just put my thought in here... I am at your same age and i get Harassed abut marriage all the time... we kulu qesma we na9eeb..
A Journal Entry - should he be in the picture if its someone i am not considering??
Slai7e6 - hes not entertainment but im at an age where i cannot afford to turn down a good man. yes of course, i would prefer marrying the person i love and care about but we have to face reality. the point is should i tell him about someone that i am not considering at all??
Anonymous - LOOOL see this is the game i do not want to play. If he wanted to propose, he will do it. i dont want him to ever say "i only proposed cos you tricked me into it"
Anonymous - he is my best friend and we have a relationship based on honesty and respect. but if i tell him i need to get my family off my back and he says something like hes not ready to propose than what??
love ;** - since when do intentions speak for themselves?? guys always misinterpret anything a girl does or say!! been there done that got the tshirt. How can i bring up the topic??
love u too ;*******************
Nora - the guy i would never consider for various other reasons completely unrelated to my beau. so its never an ultimatum. the dilemma is should he know or not??
Solafa - see this is what im afraid of!!! what if he reacts really badly??
and about how serious he is, i know he is cos of lots of things i cant say but u can trust me on this.
the family friend is not an issue at all. its the guy that is the issue. because of who he is and his character and stuff like that and the history is just icing on the cake. i am not considering him at all. i do mind marrying him very much.
Provocative Lady - hhhmmm very valid point
Bahraini Barbie - see its a different issue. i did not live that love story between the my beau and his ex but with the guy, i was there throughout everything that happened with them. he used to call me when they were having to problems and i helped them sort it out. so its a lot more personal.i dont have a problem with baggage, i just have a problem with knowing all the details of the baggage cos i lived through it with them. u get me??
i am planning on praying iste5ara but ive been postponing it for a few days because im really scared. laish madry. inshallah i will this weekend.
for the guys - would he get upset if he found about it later?? ya3ni its a guy i didnt even consider so why should it upset him??
No identity.. - tara ilzawaj qesma oo na9eeb and i totally agree with u and Bahraini Barbie. i am at a point where i was to share it with him because hes my shoulder to cry on but i dont want him misinterpreting my intentions
Guys i really appreciate you comments - keep them coming. And if possible, can you convince guys to comment because i wanna hear the male perspective of the issue
If there is no way that your going to accept his proposal and your decision wont be influenced on wether your boy friend is going to propose to you or not, basically you just do not want him, then do not tell your boy friend about it.
Tell hiabt it but don't make him feel as though u're pressuring him, no.. Byt rather seek his advice on whether you should tell ur girlfriend that her eX proposed to you..
That way when he discusses this matter with you, you can know his intentions without being so obvious about it.
Hasan.B - see that is exactly why i havent said anything yet. but what is ur justification?? please elaborate
Glitter - u just gave me an idea. how about i do the whole "my friend has this problem blah blah blah" story mal ayam ma kina bil madrisa. u know mithil mal "i have this friend that likes this boy". LOOOOL
i think you should tell him..
wala ya 3anooda, ma adree shagolich....min mita wntay ma3a 9a7bich? leana itha ana knt ma3a wa7da o b3d 3 months yt galatly walla wa7id ya 5e6ny ra7 an9idum bs if nafs ilwgt ma3a kil i7teramy lich i7na ib mijtama3 3ndihum itha il bnt akbar min 26 o ma legat.laha wa7id ya3nee bt3nis mithel ma gltay (sorry walla mo ga9dy shay).
Intay it3arfeen 9a7bich...it3rfeen 6ab3a o tafkera...mat3arfeen a7ad e3rfa 3del? ymken itha kalamtay 9a7ba aw a7ad thany ygdroun ya36onich na9e7a bs ana ib rayey golela ga3dy o golela ina lazem agolik hal shay bs mo ma3nata abeek titgadamly bacher, ana ga3da agolik leana aby a3arif rayek bl maw'9ou3...hatha mn 7gich ina it3rfeen
a7is 5arba6t wayed 3la rasich...bs inshalah na9e7ty faditich hahah itha laa then ana asif :/
If you are sure that he is not messn around then talk to him, and you are not loosing anything.
To be clear now is far better than knowing the truth later, when you can escape it.
Dear 3anooda,
I think you should tell him.. He will probably take it the way u meant it..
and yes he should know because it is something big..
Allah iwafgich wisahil 3alaich;*
well i guess that he should know , if he really wants u then he will act and do something thatd if he dosent wana lose u ,, infact its a great thing u can test etha he is serious about u ,,,, o ur 28 yeah u should think about it al7en ,,, so etha he didnt care well then thank god that ele 9ar made u realize that ur not gona waste more time with him , bas jad i hope that he do shay o act :P.. alllllllll the best ......
Is this part of the story?
Music, Happiness, Love - hhhhmmmm
jara7 - na7na ma 9arlina fatra 6weela fa 3ashan chee im not sure about telling him.
kalamt 7ad y3arfeh wayid zain oo galooli i should tell him 3ashan y3arif ineh howa m3aligny - lakin ehwa ma m3aligny so that concept does not apply
wayid 7acheet 3adil fa 5arbi6 zyada. al7een t3arf iny ma3arfeh min zman so ba3deh wagt 3ala hal 7achi oo nafs ilwagt a3arfeh zain iny agool la 3agy agooleh. its a dilemma.
oo ba3ad he is currently under a bit of a stressful time fa yumkin ilwagt jidan '3air munasib
Solafa - im sure he is not messing around but im not sure if he thinks of me as his life partner yet
S - would he take it the way i meant it?? cos most guys take it as "shes trying to trap me" regardless of what the girl meant.
coco grace - why do u think he SHOULD know?? i mean if its someone i would never consider anyways??? he has shown me enough times that he doesnt want to loose me its just he didnt go as far as proposing.
Anonymous - LOOOOOL no this is my real life dilemma
7beebty this is a really hard situation ur in, and im so sorry about that :(
Like u said ur attached to him so u have to tell him, i mean u dont want him to find out for someone else now do u? cuz that wud be so much more worse. U shud tell him but calmly, and tell him ur trying ur best to reject the purposels, but dont make it sound like ur asking him to purpose, u dont want him to think this is all a game. and inshallah the proposals will go away and your beu will purpose to u soon inshallah, but dont make it seem like ur pressuring him when u talk abou the sunject. Good luck 7beebty :**
7beebty im so sorry for what ur in. I think u should tell him. He wont think ur one of those girls if he knows u so much and care bout eachother alot. He will believe u. Try ur best to reject the proposals, but like be strict about it letting ppl know that u dont want those other men. And inshallah "your" guy will propose to u soon, u seem like an amazing girl, why wud he not ! Hang in there your time is soon :***
If you can trust him with whatever, then he is worthy enough of knowing what's going on in ur life..trusting him includes him not getting u wrong.. now, if u can't trust him with talking about what's going on in ur life, then that's another issue.. u're 28, as in mature enough to be in a meaningful relationship, as opposed to youngsters where the tendency to fool around is higher..Being in a relationship with u, at this age, he probably sees a future.. So it shouldn't be harmful in any way to let him know.
no you should tell him.
Mo 3ashan shay... so he can no!
like.. what if you accept the proposal and he doesnt no about it? and he finds out from someone else.. that would be very risky.
Tell him... ask him for his opinion!..
if he thinks ina its a trick... and he'll go like
"im not ready to get married" then i dont think you should open to that page... so.. consider telling him... expect a positive reaction... and see how the whole thing goes on. Life is hard.
Susy.Q - i have already informed anybody who would listen that i am not interested in this person. but im getting the attitude that im rejecting everyone because i am waiting for someone specific. so i have been harassed and yelled at and told "ili tan6ureeneh gooleeleh iyee wila g3id yil3ab"
mushkila im not waiting for anyone specific. and this is killing me. i made that mistake before and i will never do it again.
i also made the mistake of telling them that someone has come to propose and what happened is everything blew up in my face and i was told that i put too much pressure etc.
S - i can trust him with my life but the issue remains that his existance has no input on my decision with this specific guy. it might have if it was someone else but in this situation it doesnt. so what am i benefiting by telling him??
Anonymous - so what will either or us or our relationship benefit if i told him??
Everybody - you cant imagine how touched i am that each one of you made the effort to write a comment here. espeically the ones with the long comments.
the general consensus is that i should tell him but its coming from girls. i need male perspectives.
also i would like to add that if i do decide to tell him, i will not be doing it until April cos we are going through a bit of a rough patch these days since both of us are stressed with other stuff. plus i have exams in a few weeks time.
GUYS YOUR OPINIONS PLS
ok i couldn't be bothered to read the above comments and this might be the same advice but here goes..
1. i don't think your main problem is telling him or not.. i think its your family that you need to convince that you don't want this guy..
2. i really respect you for refusing this guy for the reasons you stated.. hats off to you!
3. tell him and if he knows you well he will know that you're not the type to try and trap him into marriage
4. seriously tell him cuz one day it will come up in conversation and he'll be angry that you didn't tell him!
i don't think u should tell him cuz it can get messy. he will start to think that ur bestfriend had something to do with it
and i truly respect u for feeling this way about ur friend cuz i dont think u will allow this to happen to urself if u were in ur friend's place
and this is what u truly felt.. i really respect u for this
FourMe - actually my problem is needing to talk about it with my soulmate. and the conflict is that it might be misinterpreted because hes my bf and its a marriage issue. if i was 22 i wouldnt have cared and just told him but because im at such a prime "marriatable" age, it has different implications.
thanks babe ur the first person that made me feel good about my decision and reasons for rejection. majority basically said "li7gay ilqi6ar gabil la yfootich" LOOOOOL
Momentum - well he has never heard of this friend cos we havent been in touch for a really long time so shes not really a part of my life anymore AT ALL
YAY my second supporter. mua7. love u guys. im not a cow for sale anymore
I agree with love and jara7... kalamhum 9a7.. talk to him goleela aby rayek bil mawthou3 bs fahmeh ena u dnt want any proposal aw ayshay other than that menah bs tabeen his opinion eb hal mawthou3.. ow 3ala el pressuring tara its 3ady hatha shay u cnt stop it bil family.. they just believe in certain thngs ow 3abalhum 9ij when they wre not. ya3ne a ni9eeb is a ni9eeb hathy ketbat rabech mu beedna! kelshay gesma ow ni9eeb 9a7? i say go with what you feel bil akheer its your life..
I hope you figure things out, allh e3eencih;)
Inzain, al7een the guy u rejected, law ana ib mokanich, I would've done the same thing.. I can't be with someone with a history with someone i know..
the thing is ..intay u're not considering telling ur bf ina someone has proposed (regardless of who he is) ila la'ana u want to know where he's heading?! .. Bas ib nafs el wagt, u're saying ina if it was someone else, u r willing to consider the proposal! .. I think there's a bit more to it than u think.. Cuz if u r willing to consider someone else, then that says that there isn't much between u 2 ? I hope u understand qasdi, cuz I've had too much sugar and can't get my thoughts organized :S
Exquisite:* - yeah i think that is the way i will bring it up to him if i decide to tell him
S - no i wanna tell him cos he is my soulmate and since its something thats always on my mind im dying to discuss it with him. and the reason im saying that if it was someone else that i might consider i will tell him because basically im at an age where i cant be playing around and wasting my life and loosing out on good opportunities. in that case i will tell him "i would prefer it if u come but if ur not coming im not going to wait" kind of thing.
what we have is serious and deep. ya3ni i see myself spending the rest of my life with him. but its not in my hands is it??
babe..awal shay i think u shud tell the bf..tell him honestly and see his reaction..
its either go for it..or dont since i will propse..
if he says go for it..then get to know the guy..why not!!! if it was ur close friends ex then thats off limit..but hes not!
i think u shud give it a shot atleast..
And see where things are btw u n the bf first then take ur second step..
if u need anything please email me at yara576@gmail.com..i hope things go well for u
and dont let any1 effect ur descion so u dont regret it..
9alee est5araah and do whatever U want...
My dear, i only pray that things will get easy on you in the coming weeks.
As we all said, at the end its you who needs to decide on which way you will take.
Meanwhile, you are to focus on ur exams, as you said above.
Good luck
Allah ma3aky
Now that's good to here .. well, i guess u better tell him.. la'ana u better make sure that both of u are on the same track..What if 2moro someone comes, and u REALLY can't find a reason to reject? What are u going to tell him then? I think it's better if you let him know that someone has proposed and u're family wanted u to accept.. only u know who he is and you don't want him.. it's up to u to tell him why though.
all i say is good luck o allah isahil darbich this is a long issue i dont think ive had enough experience to be able to help you out! (Wish i did!!)
If i were you at he age of 28 and in our society i think you should at least make sure that things are serious between the both of you so by telling him u may get some closure about how serious he sees your realtionship ;*
yallah allah kareem id3ay rabich winshalla idilich lil darb il 9a7 ;*
In regards to telling your guy or not, well I think it all comes down to a few things, how well does he know you and how well do you know him.. I would tell him if he understands how you are not sharing this bit just to pressurize him, but at the same time if he would think that way then I'd probably hold it off a bit..
Sometimes it gets to a point where they think you are nagging them to make the proposal move when you aren't meaning it to be that way you know :)
Hope that helped.
I agree with what glitter mentioned above it's a smart way to let ur beau know few things in an undirect way ,I have a question though : " what if you didn't know that this guy was ur friends ex? " ya3ney it once happened inah sum friend i know got married to some guy b3dain she found out inah he once was on a relationship with one of her friends .. she confronted him with what she knew but eventually it's turned out to be a brief relationship and it was the girl who blew it !
y576 - LOOOOL 3ad ana ishta6ait oo dazait lich email 3ala 6ool cos i wast online. but basically the guy that proposed is the ex of this grl that used to be a good friend of mine. during their relationship i was very much involved. so hes a complete no-no. the dilemma is should i tel the bf since he is my soulmate and he understands me and always tells me what i would do without me realising it, or is it a sensitive topic that might spark up other stuff.
Solafa - please pray for me.
S - if someone comes that i will consider then im definitely telling him cos thats a different situation. i will say "just say the word and i will wait but if ur not ready im not gonna wait" cos im at an age where i cant afford to reject suitable men any more.
Aishah - things are serious i just dont know if his definition of serious matches mine. LOOOL. bas la weve talked about the future but in indefinite time frames.
Jacqui - choofay i know him very well and he knows me very well lakin there are some topics that no matter how well u know a person u cannot expect their reactions and this is one of them.
Zabo0o6a - if i didnt know then thats a different story but i was very much involved with their relationship which is what makes it very very wrong. and it was not breif it was quite a long meaningful one.
well my honest opinion is that you should weigh the situation very carefully and control what info you let out to your folks and to that guy aswell.
I'll be honest to say that I'm a kind of clear cut kinda guy.... 1 + 1 = 2 and thats it.
But around these parts, 1+1 often = 10000000
the arabian mentality is just kinda stuck in the 50's in a lot of parts.
well i guess that depends on your folks.
hmmm a reason to reject? well you can construct anything to stall the matter... including somehow leaking info to the guy that you dont really want him.
in anycase, there is a logical point that we all arent getting any younger. And i'm not sure what comes first in your idea of a successful marriage.
- One person might prefer a fake relationship based on lies but with a strong financial backup and they might consider that good enough
- One person might prefer a strong emotional base and prefer a happy together family as a priority
- One person might have the preference to put family (both sides parents and family compatibility) over everything else with the rationale of a good home
......etc
basically what I'm saying is that you gotta find out what do YOU want, and if the current situation your in would MAKE it happen.
Don't leave a stone un-turned in this stuff.
if you still need someone to talk about this stuff don't hesitate to e-mail me or anything
tell him, but let him know that you want to say no and tell him about the ex girlfriend dilemma, see what his opinion is.. he shouldn't be thinking that you're trying to put pressure on him and if he started freaking out explain why you're telling him..
this is a tough one.. good luck :*
hmm i think you should if you guys are really close..
but don't tell him directly like out in the open ..
ya3ne shkther 9arlikum? itha aqal mn sna latgolenla ra7 itna7shena 9adgeny!
Seattle dude - ma looking at it from every different angle im exactly on 50/50. i want a relationship with someone i can trust with my life. i want to be safe and secure and when i look at him i know that he is the man that i want to be the father of my children. walla ma ga9art i might take u up on that offer of emailing u.
M - what im worried about is he is the kind of person that if he freaks out he wont show it.
libero anima - tell him indirectly?? maybe get him to read this blog?? LOOOOL. he doesnt blog nor read. but if he did then a weight has been lifted off my shoulder.
jara7 - eee aqal min sina thats why i beleive its too soon for such a serious topic
khalas then don't tell him!
tell him when someone that u might consider does come!
Goodluck to the both of u ;* I hope it works out
a friend of mine was seeing someone for monthes and then they stopped talking after a while they started talking again and at that time someone proposed and she decided to give it a try.. so she talked to him and she didn't like him but at the same time dude #1 stopped calling and few days later my friend rejected the proposal and dude#1 decided to propose cuz he knew he wanted her and cnt live without her.
point of the story don't reject the other guy y3ni give it a shot.. try talking to him or smthn and tell ur bf about it and see what he thinks y3ni ur in it for marriage and i guess he would understand. don't worry everything will turn out 3la iln9eeb! ;*
In the end it's your decision, what you feel right is what will be done so just believe in the choice you make and go for it babes :)
We're with you in whatever you choose :)
S - ok i told him i was met'6ayga about something but i didnt wanna bother him about it. he said i have to tell him when he calls me tonight. if he still remembers i might tell him
wink! - hhhmmm now thats an idea. LOOOOL
Jacqui - i think im ready to tell him. its really bugging me and what i have been doing lately is just binging and sleeping
Good Luck with everything babes :)
Wish you all the best walla :)
Jacqui - ask me tomorrow how it went. if i got the guts to tell him today
Good luck dear, my prayers with u.
Allah ma3aki
Speaking of my own experience, I think you should tell him. Cause the same thing happened to me I had a BF at the time but someone else proposed to me. So I was really confused and didn't know what to do.
I prayed isti5ara regarding the proposing guy and i told my then BF that I'm not telling him to pressurise him but I'm just telling him to let him know and I also told him that i'm considering it.
He was understanding but of course didnt like the "considering" part.
Alhamdulilah i'm married to my then BF currently husband.
My point of this is everything maktoob. if it's ment to happen then it'll happen.
And it's good to let him know cause when he propose to me his family found out that someone proposed b4 him, but its all good :)
I would say NO unless you are sure that the guy would not misunderstand the situation don't open the topic...good luck!
u should tell him
coz if he likes u ytl7l7 and does somthing
and if not then shoofi na9eebk and do wt u think is right
but i do think u should tell him
and when u tell him gooli eno this isn't one of the girly gilr games fahmi mawqfek
he should know
Anonymous - i have decided that i will tell him. last night was supposed to be the time but i knocked out. i just woke up from a nap so i hope i wont knock out again tonight.
..::Amu::.. - i am sure he wont misunderstand it if i explain it properly. that was a fear but i have faith in him. inshallah
Balqees - hahahah yeah thats the point - im not telling him cos abeeh ytl7l7. hahahaha
witha dara inich khasha 3ana for i dont how long w ina its very serious bi3a9ib wayed mu? so i say tell him, in a not so "a3al ikh6ibni" kind of way, la, in a "im very stressed khangolik sh9ar ilyoum" kind of way, 3araftay?
last Anony - ib9ara7a yibteeha - didnt really think of bringing it up this way bas shagool al7een "im very stressed laneh radu yabu mawthoo3 ilproposal???" yeah i guess thats good
oo howa ygool "ay proposal" oo nid5al fil mawthoo3
think of it this way
WHY would you tell him?
What good would come out of it?
What difference would it make to ur relationship?
is it gna be for the better, or worse
or no difference at all?
ur the only one that can judge.
eshda3wa - why would i tell him?
cos he is my soulmate and i want his advice.
what good will come out of it?
i dont know.
do i aim to benefit anything??
if ur asking if im aiming for a proposal from him then no.
how would our relationship benefit??
madry but unless he misunderstands my intentions, then this should make us closer and also ybayinly his intentions
the call is happening now - wish me luck pple
mission accomplished - i think it went well.
thank you everyone that supported me during this period. i feel so much better. like a weight has been lifted off my shoulder.
now back to normal life
lsn 3anooda babe
im 27 and hearing the same shit as u, 3anis oo 3anis, f**k them ok, china marrige ehwa kl shay bl denya weli ma tetzawaj tentihi 7ayat.ha, this is bullshit, we can live our life happily ever after mo shar6 netzawaj 3ashan n3eesh bsa3ada so dont worry about this
2nd about them pushing u 2 marry this guy who proposed, u have 2 tell ur family the truth, tell them he was my frnds bf and i cant marrry him, very simple and they should understand
3rd about ur bf, well its not really important 2 tell him if u dont want 2, ya3ni u can mention it 3adi not as a big deal or cant mention it at all, mo muhim ya3ni
wish u luck sweety oo 6amneeni 3alaich :**
"if opportunity doesn't knock build up a door"
i say you should tell him not as ina propose me or anything la2 just so that he can keep in mind abt whts happening with u and have the thought of marriage in his mind if it wasn't plus.. or if u think he's not too ready and u told him he's gonna scare away maybe ina he's gonna feel like she's really rejecting guys for me.. he's gonna think ina for him then he's gonna be like 7aram athlimich ma3ay n all
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