Always, the discussion of attraction comes up between any group of friends where one or more is undergoing a relationship crisis. This usually means 110% of the time. LOL. Anyways, my point being, physical attraction is the major factor of a relationship between two people. And by this relationship, I mean romantic.
A friend once asked me what is a total no-no for me when it comes to guys and I admitted, without shame, that it is something with relation to their physical appearance. And no, its not his direct looks, its the height. I have a big thing against shorter guys. I cannot possibly be attracted to them. Of course its not the only thing, there are many others but you can say that height is the basis of my first impression. LOL.
This friend, to this day, argues with me that a person does not choose who they love. I agree with that. But where does this "lack of choice" come from?? Its the basic standards that someone has with regards to the person that they will spend the rest of their lives with.
This friend STILL refuses to accept that I will NEVER fall for a shorter guy. I never knew how to build my argument until finally I figured out how to explain it.
What is the difference between lovers and best friends?? Physical attraction. I cannot be attracted to a guy that is shorter than 173cms at least. Im sorry. I know im not making it easier for the guys but I cant help being tall. At least for the Omani female standards. Therefore, if my best friend is taller than me, I might fall in love with him but if he was shorter or almost equal in height, I never will. Cos you cannot fall in love with someone that u are not physically attracted to. Just not possible.
What are YOUR No. 1 no-no's in ur non-specific other??
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8 m3andeen:
Your so harsh. Just Kidding, we all have some bias to what is attractive. I must admit tastes change, and things that I once thought were a NO-NO (physically) eventually evaporated and no longer are important.
Most of my bias now is more personality based. Im a sucker for drive and motivation.
So your telling me if you met someone standing at 168cm high, and they were perfect in all other aspects, they would fall into Friendship zone?
most likely yes. do u blame me?there is nothing sexier than a man kissing his woman on the forehead so can u just imagine the guy getting up on his tiptoes to kiss her forehead?? i would rather hes crouching down. LOL
i had a lot more physichal no-no's but just like you they have all evaporated. this one just refuses to budge.
of course, im a sucker for humour and sensitivity so maybe a 168er will be able to sweep me off my feet.
you two make me laugh...
so I am 186cm high. so does that mean I am eligible to be someone on your 'love list'?
you said a lot about physical attraction what about mental attributes? the neccesary things that will last a lifetime...like when you said you like him to be sensitive and humorous....which most guys are, dunno about me, but each one in his own way....what about that?
this is a misconception that everyone seems to have when i say what i said. height is the first attribute that i look at and the next 20 on the list are all character and personality based attributes. for example, i want my guy to make me feel like im his number one priority. that im top of the list for him. others include mental stimulation, a social person, educated, experienced, open minded, etc. the usual. LOL
is it weird that the first thing i look at is height?? it used to be worse. i used to judge guys by their shoes. LOL
ok...while you're at it, what are your other 20 attributes that you look for in a man of your dreams...?
where should i start?? LOL
3anooda:
how about personality?
give me some time and i will have a post dedicated to this topic
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